HERE ARE SOME GUIDELINES
- Maintain the same bedtime routines
- Create a schedule that suits your and your child's needs
- Include time for your work / errands
- Include your child in the planning process.
- Check your local prohibitions for what isn't allowed for everyone's safety!
Keeping a Routine is crucial to keeping families happy.
1. Keep bedtime routines! Of all of the things to keep, it is bed times, and their routines. The same time, the same baths and the same book reading too. We are maintaining a Monday-Friday school night routine.
2. Create a schedule that works for your household. Consider the entirety of your day and what you need to achieve each day. How many work hours you need to do, can you split them up? Making dinners, keeping kids busy and on track for school and in a routine that is designed around your household. This is a good time to help teach your children Manners, Etiquette, how to change a car tire, driving lessons, cooking lessons, knit, Go Fish, teach them something, if they wish. Planning helps them stick to meal times, clean up times, outside play and screen time if you allow it. If you have Essential workers in the house like I do, this adds a whole layer of worry and work. Extra cleaning and extra worry. My husband is an ER doctor which comes with a myriad of issues right now.
3. Include outside time. This depends on ages, and local prohibitions really. Younger kids may be able to ride scooters/bikes, go to a park trail, river etc. Older kids may be able to go fishing, play basketball at the school, (if no one is there), play soccer, hockey etc. Video tape their slap shots/tricks in slo-mo so that they can send it to their friends etc.
4. Monitor Screen time but you can allow more TV during these strange times. They can watch Netflix while doing lego or playing dolls, whatever works. Psychologists are simply advocating to do what you need to do to get through this. Additionally, keeping to a framework of a routine is going to settle everyone. Try it for a week, if something is not working, tweak it. If they have 1 hour or more a day during this isolation then just keep a mental chart of how much screen time they are having. If kids are gaming, keep a timer on them and if they ask for more, show them the schedule and stay firm. Once they see the schedule and help create it, they will adjust. Consistent parenting is going to help your family through this.
5. Block off time to hang out. Each one of my children have very different emotional needs. One needs a snuggle, another needs to play cards, another likes me to watch horror movies with her. We compromise on old school Thrillers as mama does not do Horrors anymore. Each child can make a list of things they would like to learn or play.
You can also take this time to teach your children valuable life skills depending on their age, and your skills. Do (or redo) your taxes with them, teach them how to put your summer tires on, get their help when doing laundry or teach them to cook/bake. When building a schedule, take into consideration both their and your needs.
Create a schedule that works for your household.
- Ask your children to make a list on Sundays of things they would like to play or try for the week ahead. For example, music, art, going through clothes, doing puzzles etc. Whatever it is, add it on the schedule. See our families schedule attached.
- Make sure to keep exercise time for you, whatever you need, book it in, swap with your partner or get up early, perhaps workout with your kids.
- I have interviewed many parents and they are letting their kids have the afternoons to do whatever they want, so parents can work.
- Plan healthy meals and keep dinner times for social time. Value it. Add some interesting facts at dinner, bring your best jokes to dinner, My kids choose an animal or city and tell us 3 facts about each. If you need more time to do something, let them watch a movie.
- We play cards after dinner now mostly, poker or president, thanks to my daughter’s boyfriend and watch a movie.
- Some nights the kids make a fort and my husband and I play scrabble at the end of the table. He is isolated from us right now which totally sucks, so we are trying our best to take the stress out.
- We are maintaining an easy schedule that I can manage with my husband’s shift work.
- Kids feed off two things, routines and the security of love.
- Just love them, hug them often, if you are tired don’t, “HARD CORE PARENT” that day, be consistent though. This is only temporary. You can do this.
Just love them, hug them often, ... This is only temporary. You can do this.
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